I see your point on Kirk, but i think a Kirk written in 2002 would be a lot more tolerant and respectful of female officers than Kirk of the 60s.
In fact I almost think some of Pike would creep in there, especially with someone like Clooney playing him
Oh, I agree that Kirk would be more sensitive if written now. But even with that his relationship with a female officer would be different than a male (male bonding, etc.). I just don't see Kirk opening up to a female McCoy in the same way he opened up to Bones in TOS. That was the only point.
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